4 Tips to Get You to 2020 With Less Stress

Mom Life, Wellness

After an unexpected trip to the ER, I’m am thankful I am to be able to sit here and write this to you.

First of all, I’m ok. But I have been having vertigo, dizzy spells and yesterday my ability to think and talk was not quite right. When I responded to a message from my husband, “I can’t read this, my head isn’t right” he obviously started asking me why, and he said I needed to go to the ER. I was like “no, I’m fine” but I agreed to call the nurse advise line, who ALSO recommended the ER… so I went. Basic neuro exam was fine and they did a CT scan which also came back fine. The doc said “your brain isn’t broken and doesn’t have things growing on it” soooooo….

And while waiting for the results, I realize I need more rest time. And I’m not just talking sleep. Let my mind rest without thinking of the next 5 items on the infinite to-do list. I need to focus on and be in whichever thing that I’m doing.

So I’m challenging you to join me. I want you think about how you want to spend your last 90 days of 2019. Do you want to spend it running around, feeling like you will never be ready for the holidays, or do you want to enjoy every precious 132,480 minutes? (Ok, so it’s really 92 days)

Join me, and relinquish these thoughts that are holding you back. Make time for YOU once a week, strive for DAILY, where you are only focusing on you. Change your mindset that you “don’t have the time”. Mama, we all have the same 24 hours, and aside from some things, like, illness, we have either invited or accepted everything that keeps but often we are rushed into doing them because we’re overwhelmed with the day to day tasks.

After an unexpected trip to the ER, I’m am thankful I am to be able to sit here and write this to you.
First of all, I’m ok. But I have been having vertigo, dizzy spells and yesterday my ability to think and talk was not quite right. When I responded to a message from my husband, “I can’t read this, my head isn’t right” he obviously started asking me why, and he said I needed to go to the ER. I was like “no, I’m fine” but I agreed to call the nurse advise line, who ALSO recommended the ER… so I went. Basic neuro exam was fine and they did a CT scan which also came back fine. The doc said “your brain isn’t broken and doesn’t have things growing on it” soooooo….
And while waiting for the results, I realize I need more rest time. And I’m not just talking sleep. Let my mind rest without thinking of the next 5 items on the infinite to-do list. I need to focus on and be in whichever thing that I’m doing.
Here are my 4 tips to help you glide into 2020. These take time so try one this week.
  1. Say NO! Oh man, this is so hard, but let me tell you. I had to say no to two things within a week of each other in early August. It was soooo hard. AND, if I hadn’t, I can’t even imagine right now! (Thanks Jen Sincero & Jade Emhoff)
  2. Ditch the list. I’m not saying lists are awful, actually I love them. I mean there is so much to do between kid’s sports, work, home, self, etc… That I have a list app and a calendar app and post-its all over my office. But what I mean here is to not let that list run your life. Find the top two things that must get done today, do those then enjoy the rest of the moments you have with those littles without thinking about the email you need to write to your boss or the load of laundry that needs folded from two days ago. You run your list, your list doesn’t run you!
  3. Prioritize YOU. You will be better equipped to do 1 & 2 when you make time for yourself. This will look different for everyone. Maybe its a girls night, perhaps reading a book with a glass of wine in a bubble bath, ensuring you #makemovementhappen, playing board games with your kids. Do something for yourself that brings YOU joy. YOU ARE WORTH IT! 
  4. Ask for help. We are all so proud of everything we do, and that is truly warranted. BUT, you can’t do it all yourself, so ask for help from your spouse, your neighbor, your friends, your family, someone, please ask for help. “It takes a village” is truly an understatement. Find your tribe, you can start with me. How can I help you? 
Mama, do yourself a favor, don’t get lost in the everyday grind. Spend your time truly being with your family and doing things that put a spark your heart. That’s where the memories are, don’t you want to be there?